Relationships can be so difficult at times. We often view this as a negative, but should this always be the case? – I believe not.
When a relationship is beginning it is fresh, new and exciting. We are caught up in a marvellous, emotional, biological and experiential frenzy which releases happiness within us (I’m sure someone out there can explain this in brilliantly scientific terminology so I will not try to do so). Most people will look back on previous relationships and value the early days more than the latter.
The more comfortable we become in our relationships, the more we allow our deepest character to come out. It becomes clear to us that our partner is not perfect, and they are also aware that we are not the picture of perfection we have presented. This can often be make or break for relationships. The sad thing is that often it is break.
The positive aspect of this part of a relationship is that it is where genuine acceptance, authentic relationship, and deeper trust are formed.
Character is crafted in the crucible of pain – Anon
These are (obviously) essential to a lasting relationship. Conflict and collision create depth in our relationships when we are willing to work through the collisions caused by our habits, personalities and perspectives. Collision creates opportunities for us to really understand and relate to the other person.
Rather than seeing collision as a negative, use it to deepen your relationships.